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We tend to believe we all want what’s best for us. Is it really so? Or sometimes do we settle for less?

I noticed that women around me prefer expressing their attitudes, and that they speak up about things they want. You would never say these women settle for less. However, when it comes to love and relationships, things can be different.


There are some reasons women choose to stay in relationships, even though they are unhappy with their partners. After listening to their stories, I can tell you 4 of those reasons.

1: Fear of ending up alone

Fear of ending up alone
Fear of ending up alone

I believe the majority of women struggle with this problem. It is natural for all of us to seek security and comfort in our partners. There is a myth that depicts solitude as something terrible.

We sometimes have this stereotypical picture of an old single lady with a bunch of cats. And even though we joke about it, we are secretly frightened that we will end up like that, too. This is the most common reason women stay in bad relationships. They believe being with anyone is better than being alone. Even if they are not attracted to a guy and don’t love him, they keep on dating him because they feel they have (at least some) security.

As a new generation of strong and independent women, we must prove to the world we don’t need anyone in order to be happy. Ladies, think about it. Is being alone really worse than being with the wrong person?

I don’t think so.


2: Low self-esteem

Low self esteem
Low self esteem

Many women are facing troubles because they don’t think they are beautiful enough, smart enough, etc. Leaving their comfort zones scares them. Some women don’t believe they can have better than what they already have, and don’t want to risk it all. They are afraid of being rejected by men, and that is why they stick to their partners, despite the fact they are not the perfect matches.

Also, women who have low self-esteem don’t like conflicts and arguments, so they will do anything just to avoid confrontation. They are afraid to break up with their partners. They pretend that everything is okay because they are insecure.

Perhaps they think, “Who else would want me?”.

This is an obstacle that every adult woman should overcome. Once we gain our self-esteem back, we will do what it takes to be happy. I’m sure.


3: For the children’s sake

For the children’s sake
For the children’s sake

Throughout the history, staying in a relationship or marriage just because of kids was considered the right thing to do. A long time ago, this was even considered to be a woman’s obligation. Even today, some women feel it as something mandatory.

Women confessed that they decided to put up with all kinds of problems (such as abusive partners, cheating husbands, etc.) just because they didn’t want to disappoint their children. A relationship/marriage like that is destined to fail eventually.

In fact, if you want the best for your children, you should end a bad relationship. You are not doing your children a favor by letting them grow up in an unhappy family.

Moreover, you are not providing a good example for them, especially if you have daughters. Remember, you are their role model. It is your duty to teach them healthy views on love, relationships and marriage.


4: Love


Maybe this seems weird, but when we love someone so much, we refuse to see reality as it is. We keep on tolerating some things that are so bad for us. We let them cheat on us, manipulate us, lie to us. Sometimes I wonder, are we crazy or something?

Yes, it is possible for a woman to truly love her partner, despite everything. However, unlimited love can sometimes bring us damage if we are blindly driven by it. There is a great danger that lurks; the possibility that we will sacrifice anything just because we love someone.

It takes a lot of courage for women in these situations. Giving up your love is probably the most difficult thing. We all know how difficult break-ups are, and how it can get even worse when you still have feelings for someone.


5: Low self esteem

Low self esteem
Low self esteem

A person who values their self-worth isn’t afraid to speak up on their own behalf. They’re confident in standing up for themselves when they don’t agree with how another person is treating them. In a relationship, this skill comes in quite handy.

On the flip side, people who have low self-esteem may not be as likely to stand up for themselves in times of discontent. They may even be more likely to stay in unhappy relationships, according to research conducted by the University of Waterloo. The study found these people tend to keep quiet when it comes to relationship woes, as they fear the resulting rejection could wind up making them even more unhappy.


6: Fear of loneliness

Fear of loneliness
Fear of loneliness

Being alone and being lonely are two very different things. A person who doesn’t rely on another for their own happiness can be perfectly content on their own. A person who is lonely, however, is still searching for something, and likely needs to find happiness within themselves first. And this kind of fear — that of being lonely — can be paralyzing. In a Psychology Today article, Fredric Neuman, M.D., says a fear of loneliness can convince a person to stay in a bad marriage. He explains that this most likely happens when a person thinks their loneliness will never end.

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7: They think their partner will eventually change

They think their partner will eventually change
They think their partner will eventually change

A lot of people have been here before. They tell themselves things will get better. She’ll learn to manage her temper or he’ll become more ambitious — eventually. Well, people who think like this definitely shouldn’t hold their breath. While people are capable of bettering themselves over time, it’s nothing to wait around for. A person will change only when they really want to, The Huffington Post says. No one else can make that happen. A partner who sticks around in hopes of change doesn’t benefit either party.


8: Fear of being financially unstable

Fear of being financially unstable
Fear of being financially unstable

When a couple has been together long enough, financial matters often become a shared responsibility. Whether it’s shared rent or their child’s college fund, the lines naturally become blurred. In a U.K.-based study conducted by Slater and Gordon Lawyers, 2,000 married people were surveyed about how their financial situation related to their marriage. The research showed one-fifth said they would end their marriage right now if they were sure of financial security in the future.

Yes, money problems are real, so it’s only natural to have concerns about a life post-relationship. But being stuck in a bad relationship, on the other hand, is far worse. Don’t sacrifice your happiness for the sake of cash flow. Instead, meet with a financial planner to go over your earnings, and to set realistic goals you’ll be able to reach on your own.


9: Ashamed to admit the relationship didn’t work

Ashamed to admit the relationship didn’t work
Ashamed to admit the relationship didn’t work

On some level there tends to be an element of defeat when most relationships don’t pan out. For some, a breakup is akin to getting fired from a job, an admission of failure. Unfortunately, this feeling of shame can make things last much longer than they should. In Psychology Today, Richard B. Joelson writes it’s possible a person might be too embarrassed to face the consequences of a breakup, like having to explain to close friends and family why their relationship didn’t make it.


10: They believe the relationship is good enough

They believe the relationship is good enough
They believe the relationship is good enough

What forms a person’s idea of what makes for a good, or bad, relationship? Past relationships, home life as a child, or any number of environmental factors can all play a role. In the same Psychology Today story, Joelson writes, “It may be related to ideas developed early in life from observations of one’s family or difficulty knowing how to repair the inevitable bumps that occur in most (if not all) relationships.” If someone truly doesn’t believe that healthy, successful relationships exist in the first place, they’ll likely settle for anything sub-par.

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11: They’re afraid to lose what they have

They’re afraid to lose what they have
They’re afraid to lose what they have

This point refers to something psychologists call the “sunk cost effect.” Basically, it’s when you think the benefits of your current situation outweigh actually changing things up, seeing as you’ve already invested so much. NY Magazine explains, “In business, it’s when you’ve already spent some large amount of time or money on a project, so you’re hell-bent on completing it. And in love, it’s when people stay in unhappy relationships even when they should get out.”

Furthermore, research has found the sunk cost effect greatly impacts the way people make decisions. “The sunk cost effect occurs when a prior investment in one option leads to a continuous investment in that option, despite not being the best option,” reads one study. When it comes to relationships, not only does this line of reasoning fog your better judgement, it compromises your true happiness.

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12: They stay only for the sake of the kids

They stay only for the sake of the kids
They stay only for the sake of the kids

Doing everything in your power to make your relationship work for the sake of your children is admirable, but there are lots of factors that come into play when considering whether it really is best to stay for the kids. That said, there are just some deal-breakers you can’t ignore, especially when the relationship has gotten so bad, it’s become unbearable. Abuse of any kind, emotional, physical, or spiritual, for example, is reason enough to call it quits, even if that person is the mother or father of your child.

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13: They believe abuse is normal

They believe abuse is normal
They believe abuse is normal

Unfortunately, when someone grows up in an abusive environment, they may think it’s normal. Seeing their parents love-hate relationship can help form what they consider to be a successful relationship later on in life. As Psych Central notes, having grown up in such an environment only hinders a person’s ability to recognize when a relationship is in fact unhealthy.

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14: They’re stuck in a rut of bad habits

They’re stuck in a rut of bad habits
They’re stuck in a rut of bad habits

Being in a relationship with someone for a long time means you learn just about everything about one another, including those things you’d rather forget. And when that happens, it can be tough to up and leave. You’re not exactly in an unsafe relationship, which can make it hard to get out. You’re comfortable, so what’s the harm in remaining somewhat unhappy? Well, a lot. According to eHarmony, “Bad relationships can be habit forming: it may not be good, but you know what to expect.” Don’t let this happen to you.

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Bonnie Barton

Hello there! My name is Bonnie Barton. Based in Austin, TX. vintage loving, and always finding beauty in everything. Welcome to my world.

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