It is difficult to talk with them, especially about feelings and relationships; they are unbearable at times and always avoid solving problems. The list of female reproaches against men sounds almost endless and does not change for years. Why is this happening?
“He does not understand me”
The torment of their companions is alien to men. A woman thinks of a relationship primarily as a verbal agreement. Hence the frequent reproaches to the partner: “You don’t talk to me at all!” Which means “You don’t understand me.”
These phrases clearly express the different psychological needs of the sexes. Women need to express their emotions verbally. Men are arranged differently. In the areas of their brain responsible for speech, there are 17% fewer neurons than in similar parts of the brain of women. Also, we have been raised differently since childhood: it is extremely rare for boys to talk with their mothers about their feelings; as a result, women can talk about their feelings, and men prefer to use the word sparingly and mainly for transmission information. Brevity is the soul of wit but not the key to a successful relationship. If men want to meet single women, they should learn how to talk no matter how banal or strange it sounds.
“He’s getting away from discussing the problems!”
The woman’s need for words also gives rise to the following reproach: “You always try to avoid the problem.” Indeed, in the event of a conflict, the usual male practice is to shut oneself in silence. Many argue that they do not want to upset a woman, but is this true?
Some men believe that women just let their emotions out in this way and after they scream, shout, and cry, they will feel relief and calm down. And this is exactly what
annoys females so much. The problem will not disappear if you stay silent about it. It can be related to both physical issues like the licking tap that need repairing and serious misunderstanding in a couple. You should discuss something to solve it.
“They only want one thing”
Women have sex to feel loved. Men, however, declare their love to be able to have sex… The words “you keep only one thing in mind” often mean the following to a woman: “When you make love to me, I have the feeling that you could do it with any woman. And when you say that you love me, I feel precious and cared for.”
Obviously, men and women give sexuality a different meaning. Men do not hesitate to say that sex is a need. Freud’s followers believe that this situation is connected with the structure of the male libido, which radically separates love from sexual pleasure.
“All men are polygamous”
The cheating of the partner, and even more so the break with him, again makes the woman ask the question: “Am I a real woman?” A reaction unthinkable for a man. He would rather be tormented by imaginary sex scenes of his partner or a desire to pay back. The separation of love from sexual pleasure typical of men has an unpleasant consequence for women: their partners are polygamous.
Even if a lady starts a whole collection of lovers, there will always be one in her heart, the one she tries to forget in the stranger’s embraces. But a man, even in love, never devotes himself to a woman completely. He has been taught to love women, his mother is the first example. A woman needs a man to be around. A man needs a distance, his own space
· Men have been afraid of women…
Female sexuality has always perplexed men. Women can experience many orgasms in a row, while men usually feel devastated after two or three ejaculations. We will not forget about the man’s fear of adopting softness, weakness from a woman, and letting her sensibility awaken.
How did sexual pressure arise?
Most likely, in prehistoric times the man still did not understand what role his sperm plays in fertilization. Seeing how the pregnant woman’s belly rounded, he attributed this to her supernatural abilities. In the arms of a woman, a man knew the most vivid pleasure. The prehistoric man worshiped the mother goddess – after all, “God the Father” could not create such creatures as women.
How and when did we move to patriarchy?
Thousands of years ago, a man discovered a connection between his sperm and the birth of a new life. Then began the development of agriculture, cities, which
required the maintenance of order. This obligation was assumed by men since it was they who owned the weapon. The men won power and began to fear that the woman would again take away their “main roles” from them.
That is why they chose the strategy of staying cold and stable. They talked less and acted more, the role they attracted to women was to bear a child when everything else was in their responsibility so that they do not discover how vulnerable males actually are inside.