Best Ways To Deal With An Unwanted Crush

10 Best Ways To Deal With An Unwanted Crush

Sometimes, all the magic in the universe converges and you find chemistry with someone who is also into you. Unfortunately, that doesn’t happen all the time, and it can result in an awkward situation that can be worse than the friend zone. Here are some of the most effective ways to deal with an unwanted crush.

1. Don’t laugh it off

You might think that this is a way of diffusing tension, but joking about the situation can be condescending and make the other person feel belittled instead of taken seriously.

Don’t laugh it off
Don’t laugh it off

2. Acknowledge his feelings

Be polite and compassionate to the other person – what if it were you bearing your soul to someone? You have the option of saying that you’re flattered and follow up with a positive comment about him so that the rejection is less intense.

 

 

Acknowledge his feelings
Acknowledge his feelings

3. Or gradually distance yourself

If avoiding him or giving the cold shoulder doesn’t feel like the right thing to do, slowly distance yourself and keep yourself busy with other people, your hobbies, and new adventures. Don’t respond to texts right away or seem too interested in their life. This sends a subtle hint without you needing to confront the situation directly.

Or gradually distance yourself
Or gradually distance yourself

4. Set him up o distance yourself a date

Playing matchmaker is a great way to get an unwanted crush off your back. Distract him with a new, cute girl and he’ll be moving on in no time. Setting him up on a date also definitively puts him in the friend zone.

Set him up o distance yourself a date
Set him up o distance yourself a date

5. Share feelings from your perspective

You can let him know more about the situation – maybe you see him like a brother, or maybe you already have a boyfriend. If he’s a co-worker, you can say that you don’t mix work and play.

Share feelings from your perspective
Share feelings from your perspective

6. Don’t be flirtatious, even if it’s naturally in your personality

This might send mixed signals even though you act like this in a range of social situations, but you don’t want to send the wrong message or a sliver of hope if there is none!

Don’t be flirtatious, even if it’s naturally in your personality
Don’t be flirtatious, even if it’s naturally in your personality

7. Avoid awkwardness by avoiding him

This might seem weird, but sometimes it’s better than trying to awkwardly salvage a friendship. If not permanently, just avoid him temporarily until the tension leaves – maybe give it a month or so and avoid common hangout places.

Avoid awkwardness by avoiding him
Avoid awkwardness by avoiding him

8. Move away from unwanted advances abruptly and say no

If a physical boundary is crossed, flinch and draw away for them. Tell them to stop and that they need to respect your personal space. Creating this boundary and reinforcing that inappropriate physical content is unacceptable is a good way to get the sentiment across.

Move away from unwanted advances abruptly and say no
Move away from unwanted advances abruptly and say no

9. Make it clear that it’s not personal

This will help protect their self-esteem, and also let them know that the situation doesn’t center around them. You can say something along the Iines of, “I know you like me, but I’m not interested. It’s nothing personal and I think of you as a valuable friend.”

Make it clear that it’s not personal
Make it clear that it’s not personal

10. Most importantly, deflect those guilty feelings

It’s not your fault that you‘re not attracted to someone, it’s just an unfortunately reality. Distance yourself despite guilty feelings – express that you’re sorry the other person isn’t happy, but know that it’s not your responsibility to make them happy.

Most importantly, deflect those guilty feelings
Most importantly, deflect those guilty feelings

 

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Saumya

Hi! This is Saumya here on this web producer for GreetingsMag.com. She recently earned a bachelor’s degree in journalism from the University of Texas at Arlington and is a Dallas native. She enjoys painting, a hefty taco and discovering new music.

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